Ruth Westheimer Quotes

You connect with who you connect with, and if your feelings are strong enough then you'll make that work.

There's no formula that can make a marriage work. Sometimes two people just click.

We need a romantic illusion to embark on relationships in the first place. After that, they survive or fail for other, more practical reasons.

Every relationship probably has, at its inception, a hundred things that you could pick on and divert you from it, but the feeling is there. You figure out a way to make it work.

Finding the one is not just a feeling, it's an educated guess. I feel like I chose someone to share my life with who is my friend.

I don't think love is a tricky issue at all. Love is best understood when we share: Share time, energy, food, resources, insights, information, whatever. It's usually thought of as something that exists between two people, but that's just because it's easier to see and feel in the space between them. Each person is sharing a lot with the other.

A lot of people head into courtship looking for fireworks. Don't pass up a chance by dumping someone after a first date because you don't feel the fireworks. The fireworks can happen at any time and be maintained.

I've never been very successful in a monogamous relationship, but I'm looking forward to the day when I can assume that responsibility.

At any given time, no matter how deeply you are in love with one person, they're appealing to a very specific side of you.

The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender.

Passion is the quickest to develop, and the quickest to fade. Intimacy develops more slowly, and commitment more gradually still.

I have to make this love affair believable enough. It's very European.

I have to be in a relationship in order to be intimate. I'm not the one-night-stand kind of girl. Despite the rumors.

I hate, for example, whenever you hear someone say, 'You have work at being a couple.'

Well I think if you really go out with someone for quite a long time you do get to know each other very, very well, you go through the good times, you go through the bad times. You know both personally, but also within a relationship as well.

It's very difficult to judge relationships from the outside. You never know what happens in intimate moments with two people to know why they really support and love each other.

Being in a successful marriage is no different than being cast in a successful movie. It's all about who you pick; in that first moment, did you pick the right person? I think you need to pick somebody who's more interested in being married than in getting married.

Happiness in marriage is entirely a matter of chance.

Marriage is miserable unless you find the right person that is your soulmate and that takes a lot of looking.

I'm one of those guys that - as far as relationships and stuff go - if you smile at me, I'm like, 'Let's date for three years' - which is just ridiculous.

There's a difference between good chemistry and a bond. Chemistry is something you have with somebody you meet - or you don't. It's an intangible. It may be superficial. It's much harder to put your finger on than a bond.

Everybody wants to share life and be in love and be loved.

I prefer a monogamous relationship if I can find one.

Dating isn't easy.

I think chemistry is just about two people being comfortable with one another.