Lauren DeStefano Quotes

I might be better able to help parents of dying children, but for quite a while I felt less able, too emotionally involved. And from that time on, I could rarely discuss the death of a child without tears welling up into my eyes.

The moment something happens to one you love, it's twenty times more intense. You experience pain and enlightenment on a much vaster scale.

It is difficult to ever think about your loved one having suffered.

Grief, when it comes, is nothing like we expect it to be.

I had heard that when people lost people, there was anger. But I definitely experienced it a lot more than I was prepared for it. Anger was not something I'd ever really felt in my life and I was not prepared for it.

The idea of losing someone that you love could throw you into a situation where you could not see your future and you really would be living in the past.

Nothing made you feel so useless as another person's grief.

I've lost someone, too; someone I loved. I know how you feel." - Does it get easier? "Yes. But you'll never be the same again.

I thought about dying whenever I got bad news about other people.

There's something about losing friends, particularly young people, where it's not something that you get over. I don't believe there's a healing process.

One might expect that the families of murder victims would be showered with sympathy and support, embraced by their communities. But in reality they are far more likely to feel isolated, fearful, and ashamed, overwhelmed by grief and guilt, angry at the criminal-justice system, and shunned by their old friends.

After I got over the terrible pain of having something of mine taken from me, I began to think how bad everybody else must be feeling. It wasn't a nice time.

Every human being must find his own way to cope with severe loss, and the only job of a true friend is to facilitate whatever method he chooses.

In 2008, while the film version of my book 'Choke' was coming to market, my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer. That meant that I had to appear in public to promote a comedy about a son trying to save his dying mother - the plot of Choke - while privately I was caring for my own dying mother. It was torture.

When Christopher and Charles passed away, I was completely depressed, I felt rejected and real down, and so Roscoe invited me because he had this spirit of compassion, and we had gone to school together, were friends and everything.

I know what you go through when you learn someone close to you has died.

In truth, 2007 was the hardest year of my life. I lost my best friend. I lost my father.

And after my mother's death I became more open to and empathetic about other people's struggles and losses.

There is no more ridiculous custom than the one that makes you express sympathy once and for all on a given day to a person whose sorrow will endure as long as his life. Such grief, felt in such a way is always present, it is never too late to talk about it, never repetitious to mention it again.

It's hard to make progress with grief.

I think grief and fear are going to come to him suddenly. They'll be undiluted and words won't work. We're all going to get hit and won't know how to hit back. I wish I knew the answers, how to help myself and the people who will hurt all around me.

The suffering of a loved one was in many ways worse than one's one suffering because it left one feeling so very helpless.

In grief we know the worst of what we feel but who can tell the end of what we fear?

Hold on ... Say your son or daughter has just gotten killed in a car accident and you're plastered out of your mind at 3 a.m. Are you going to be able to handle that?

If you have ever lost a loved one, then you know exactly how it feels. And if you have not, then you cannot possibly imagine it.