Jane Green Quotes

We see what we want to see. We idealize each other with our own fantasies.

When you think you're right, you're most likely wrong.

If you're dating a man who you think might be "Mr. Right," if he a) got older, b) got a new job, or c) visited a psychiatrist, you are in for a nasty surprise. The cocoon-to-butterfly theory only works on cocoons and butterflies.

It's not only imagination, it's the distortion of the vision. You suddenly think, This person is idealistic, this person is strong, this person has dreams, when you know better most of the time. You put what you want to see on people.

Belief in the absence of illusions is itself an illusion.

What wild imaginations one forms where dear self is concerned! How sure to be mistaken!

Newlyweds, they have this ideal, this picture of what marriage is like, something similar of their favorite memories growing up. If only it were that simple.

When you fall head over heels for someone, you're not falling in love with who they are as a person; you're falling in love with your idea of love.

A man is his own easiest dupe, for what he wishes to be true he generally believes to be true.

No woman ever falls in love with a man unless she has a better opinion of him than he deserves.

What we wish, we readily believe, and what we ourselves think, we imagine others think also.

We all suffer from the preoccupation that there exists... in the loved one, perfection.

It's so easy for us to misperceive and see the things in others that we want to see. And, when we're wrong, and often we're dead wrong, we miss the truth.

It's what a fellow thinks he knows that hurts him.

Self delusion is not a good basis for making important policy.

Falling in love is a narcissistic endeavor. You play the role of lover, and you find someone to act it out on.

Most of us think that we are 'better than average' in most things. We are also 'miscalibrated,' meaning that our sense of the probability of events doesn't line up with reality. When we say we are sure about a certain fact, for example, we may well be right only half the time.

We all run the risk of thinking that people have common sense sometimes.

For five albums, I would create an image of someone that wasn't true to who they were. I'd be in love with an idea. It's not an uncommon problem.

Thinking you know when in fact you don't is a fatal mistake, to which we are all prone

He tricked himself into thinking that she would look into his eyes and remember, that love would conquer all.

It many times falls out that we deem ourselves much deceived in others because we first deceived ourselves.

Misunderstanding is my cornerstone. It's everyone's, come to think of it. Illusions mistaken for truth are the pavement under our feet.

Just as we tend to assume that the world is as we see it, we naively suppose that people are as we imagine them to be.

When told that man lives in delusion everyone thinks of himself as the exception; hence his delusion.