Ayobami Adebayo Quotes

I refuse to accept other people's ideas of happiness for me. As if there's a 'one size fits all' standard for happiness.

I never going to satisfy everybody, so I decided to satisfy myself.

Whether they 'lean into' career, family, or both, let's not underestimate the wisdom of women to define happiness and success for themselves.

Nobody is in a position to decree what should make a fellow man happier.

It's good to follow the path of personal happiness to some extent. People tend to get upset however when you drive a steamroller down it.

My mum brought me up to think that personal happiness is more important than your family.

It is best to live however one can be.

My ambition is to enjoy my life and to do exactly what I want to do. And I'll do that. I will be free.

I think I've claimed the right to be any version of me that I want to be.

Now that I'm older, I understand that it's up to the individual to decide who they are or what they are.

I'm not obsessed with the idea of fame or lots of money or social power. I can actually do want I want to do - I'm free - isn't that the greatest prize?

You have to do what's best for you and what's going to make you happy at the end of the day, because no one can live with the consequences or anything that comes with your decision besides you.

I believe that man is in the last resort so free a being that his right to be what he believes himself to be cannot be contested.

P is positive emotion, E is engagement, R is relationships, M is meaning and A is accomplishment. Those are the five elements of what free people chose to do. Pretty much everything else is in service of one of or more of these goals. That's the human dashboard.

Those who fear that we are losing our individualism couldn't be more wrong: Americans have never been more free to create and recreate themselves.

What does it mean to be an individual? What does it mean to flourish?

I believe in living life the way that you want to live it every day, and if you do that, you don't really need to have New Year's resolutions.

In the end, I want to be able to say, 'My life was what I made it.'

I'm trying to do it my way. For me to be happy in the business means I have to do it myself.

If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive.

I'm doing what I want to do.

The little things, I can obey. But the big things - how we think, what we value - those you must choose yourself. You can't let anyone - or any society - determine those for you.

There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself.

Since no one but you can know what's best for you, government control can't make your life better.

People should decide what success means for them, and not be distracted by accepting others' definitions of success.