Janet Mock Quotes

People want to feel understood by their leaders.

People will feel safer around you and speak truthfully to you when they feel you are listening intently to them.

The important thing is having genuine regard for your audience.

Good listeners have a huge advantage. For one, when they engage in conversation, they make people 'feel' heard. They 'feel' that someone really understands their wants, needs and desires. And for good reason; a good listener does care to understand.

The portal into people's hearts is being interested in them.

I remember very vividly what it's like to be a child. The adults you liked were the ones who listened to you when you spoke and gave you time to say what you wanted to say and actually listened, and quite often reacted as a result of what you'd said.

You have to want to be in the company of those you're making films about.

You can win more friends with your ears than with your mouth. People who feel like they're being listened to feel accepted and appreciated. They feel like they're being taken seriously and what they say really matters.

In my experience with women that I've dated and my wife now, is you have to know what they care about. And even if you aren't a huge fan of it, you still have to have interest in it and it has to be genuine because women do it for men all the time.

Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence.

When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say.

Taking an interest in what others are thinking and doing is often a much more powerful form of encouragement than praise.

Folks want to be listened to, they want to be heard.

If I have any particular appeal to women, maybe it's because I listen more than other guys do and appreciate how they think and feel about things.

When people feel they’re heard and understood, they’ll listen.

During the writing of all of my books, I've learned that, most of all, people want to know that someone is listening and - this is the tricky part - remembering.

Most people have never been listened to, and they've never been asked questions that they want to be asked.

Making those around you feel invisible is the opposite of leadership.

Here's the thing: When you become brilliant at listening, people feel that you care about them. When they feel you care about them, they begin to care about you. And when people care about you, your success becomes a part of how they define their success.

To me, having the courage to tell your own story goes hand in hand with having the curiosity and humility to listen to others' stories.

The measure of a conversation is how much mutual recognition there is in it; how much shared there is in it. If you're talking about what's in your own head, or without thought to what people looking and listening will feel, you might as well be in a room talking to yourself.

I think you can be the greatest orator of all time, the greatest motivator of all times, but if those players know that you don't care about them, and you don't try to understand them, then they're never going to hear what you have to say.

The longer I live the more convinced I become that one of the greatest honors we can confer on other people is to see them as they are, to recognize not only that they exist, but that they exist in specific ways and have specific realities.

I would just like a woman someday, somewhere, at some point in my life to say to me, 'You're a great listener.' Haven't heard it yet, and that's a superior compliment to get from a woman. But I'm going to work on it.

If there's one thing I've learned about women, which I try to pass on to my boys, it's listening. Listen to the other side of the story first.