Desmond Tutu Quotes

It's not easy to forgive. I definitely don't forget, but I do forgive and I think that you should.

I have discovered that most people who tell me that they cannot forgive a person who wronged them are handicapped by a mistaken understanding of what forgiving is.

Forgiving the people that hurt us most allows us to heal from the wounds they left.

The worst part of all is that, without forgiveness, bitterness is all that is left

What was the point of being able to forgive, when deep down, you both had to admit you'd never forget?

Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.

The longer we hate, the harder it is to heal us.

Without memory, there is no healing. Without forgiveness, there is no future.

Forgive the person who badly hurt you long ago and also the stranger who stepped on your toe in the grocery store.

I am conscious that knowing me has caused you pain, and grief, and I hope that one day when you are less angry with me and less upset you will see not just that I could only have done the thing that I did, but also that this will help you live a really good life, a better life, than if you hadn’t met me.

Forgiving is...recognizing the injury, owning the pain, & reaching out.

The passion for revenge should never blind you to the pragmatics of the situation. There are some people who are so blighted by their past, so warped by experience and the pull of that silken cord, that they never free themselves of the shadows that live in the time machine... And if there is a kind thought due them, it may be found contained in the words of the late Gerald Kersh, who wrote:"... there are men whom one hates until a certain moment when one sees, through a chink in their armour, the writhing of something nailed down and in torment.

I firmly believe that usually, the person who hurt you doesn't realize what they've done or how much it hurt you. So, continue to pray for the person or situation that caused your pain and anger. Ask God to give you understanding about why they did what they did.

Forgetting is something that time takes care of, but forgiveness is an act of volition, and only the sufferer is qualified to make the decision.

Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory.

The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.

Forgiveness has its comforts, but it can never give you back what you've lost.

You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.

When a deep injury is done us, we never recover until we forgive.

I forgave the DAR many years ago. You lose a lot of time hating people.

I'd like to be more forgiving. There are times when I've had a hard time forgiving people who have betrayed me.

The heart of who I am as a person and as a man is forgiveness, after forgiving my father for a lot of things that were done when I was child.

Forgiveness isn't just the absence of anger. I think it's also the presence of self-love, when you actually begin to value yourself.

I think the hardest thing in life is to forgive. Hate is self destructive. If you hate somebody, you're not hurting the person you hate, you're hurting yourself. It's a healing, actually, it's a real healing...forgiveness.

While it takes at least two to reconcile, it only takes one to forgive.