Sarah Dessen Quotes

One of my biggest lessons in life is, we heal at the speed of our forgiveness.

What was the point of being able to forgive, when deep down, you both had to admit you'd never forget?

Blame keeps wounds open; only forgiveness heals

Forgiveness is first for you, the forgiver...to release you from something that will eat you alive; that will destroy your joy and your ability to love fully and openly. Do you think this man cares about the pain and torment you have gone through? If anything, he feeds on that knowledge. Don't you want to cut that off? And in doing so, you'll release him from a burden that he carries whether he knows it or not--acknowledges it or not.

When you can't remember why you're hurt, that's when you're healed. When you have to work real hard to re-create the pain, and you can't quite get there, that's when you're better.

You can always forgive, you just can't really forget.

Forgiveness isn't about letting the other person off the hook - it's about releasing ourselves.

Forgetting is something that time takes care of, but forgiveness is an act of volition, and only the sufferer is qualified to make the decision.

Forgiveness has its comforts, but it can never give you back what you've lost.

How can you forgive if you can’t remember to forget?

It feels good when you learn to move on in life.

Don't take it on yourself. Forget now. Live.

Forgiveness is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself. If you can't learn to forgive, you can forget about achieving true success in your life.

The secret of forgiving everything is to understand nothing.

Consolation Calm down. Both your sins and your good deeds will be lost in oblivion.

You don't have to move on to let go.

When I talk about forgiveness, I mean letting go, not excusing the other person or reconciling with them or condoning the behavior. Just letting go of your own suffering.

When we have painful memories from hurting experiences, we may feel justified in holding on to the resentment. But resentment is corrosive. It doesn't affect the person we feel anger toward, it destroys the host.

The only way to heal the pain which will not heal itself is to forgive the person who hurt you. Forgiveness heals the memory's vision. ... You set a prisoner free, but you discover the real prisoner was yourself.

Forgive me now - tomorrow I may no longer feel guilty.

Forgiving is not forgetting. Forgiving is remembering without pain.

How could you cleanse yourself if you couldn’t forget?

Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others.

And I will forget her, yes. That which came together will fall apart slowly, but she will forgive my forgetting, just as I forgive her for forgetting me and the Colonel and nothing but herself and her mom in those last moments as she spent as a person.

A wrong that cannot be repaired must be transcended.