Alan Cohen Quotes

We might depend on each other a bit too much and use that as a crutch, but it's not entirely a bad thing.

Being codependent means that when you die, someone else's life passes before your eyes.

We often have to put up with most from those on whom we most depend.

I cannot live with someone who can't live without me.

It drives me nuts how I rely on my wife for everything. I can't imagine a day without her!

Richie and Eddie couldn't exist without each other. They're two halves of the same person.

So many women are financially dependent on men. So why can't men be dependent on women? I'm totally okay with it.

Interdependence is a fact, it's not an opinion.

Ali always said I would be nothing without him. But what would he have been without me?

There is not a single one of us with a job that is not completely reliant in some way shape or form on others.

There's the bond of a connection and the bond of bondage... When you are connected to somebody, everything each one does affects the other, and it's a kind of bondage. You're not as free as you would be if that person wasn't in your life.

The person who needs the other person the least in a relationship is the stronger member.

I like the idea of a relationship where you can need and rely on each other and not feel needy and not feel like that makes you not independent.

You can live without me." "I don't want to." I feared a love like this - that made us incomplete without each other. It was beautiful but treacherous, like snow that looked white and pure and lovely from the safety of your window, but when you stepped out to touch the softness, the cold first stole your breath, and then your will to move, until you could just lay down in it and let the numbness take you. yet I didn't want to be without him either, so I didn't chide him for the statement.

I don't see any independent position that I'm in; it's rather inter-dependent.

Our instructors do not understand how it is. To be bound to someone in such a way. They are too old, too out of touch with their emotions. They no longer remember what it is to live and breathe within the world. They think it simple to pit any two people against each other. It is never simple. The other person becomes how you define your life, how you define yourself. They become as necessary as breathing. Then they expect the victor to continue on without that. It would be like pulling the Murray twins apart and expecting them to be the same. They would be whole but not complete.

I'm a worthless check, a total wreck, a flop But if baby I'm the bottom, you're the top.

Co-dependence...taking someone else's temperature to see how you feel.

Need is never a good basis for any relationship.

Nobody in the world is completely dependent on another person, but we are all interdependent.

What I want is to be needed. What I need is to be indispensable to somebody. Who I need is somebody that will eat up all my free time, my ego, my attention. Somebody addicted to me. A mutual addiction.

Tell me what you want, and then I'll put in what I want... after I'm done with my codependent providing for you, I'll get a little for me too.

It's important to have your own space. I've never trusted people who do everything together. I call them "Kool-Aid Couples," because it's like they drank the same Kool-Aid and it's drugged them into constantly gazing into each other's eyes.

We couldn't get along without him. We needed Johnny as much as he needed the gang. And for the same reason.

Intimacy is important in my work because I don't understand existence without intimacy. All of us are dependent on other people - and in ways we don't know. You cross the street and assume that person isn't crazy, they don't want to mow me down with their car. I don't know that person but I am already in a relationship with them. I am asking them to abide by the traffic laws. If they decided not to, I'd be dead. Even in those anonymous ways, we're in relationships.