Erin Foster Quotes

I don't want to stay underground for just the cool people.

There's always going to be cliques - everywhere you go, there's gonna be cliques; there's gonna be people that gravitate towards each other.

Prom culture is now painstakingly documented on sites such as Instagram and Facebook, exacerbating the angst of the uninvited.

We had a severely autistic kid in my class, and I was always picked last in gym class, even after him. Naturally, that made me feel pretty bad as an eight-year-old.

Networks are operating from a fear base where it's all about playing the popularity game.

I watch people all day long on Instagram, I take part in it too. It's like if you get the piece first, you have to immediately be like "BAH!" stunting.

I had a hard enough time in high school, fitting in without having to keep up with Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook - all these ways you have to keep up your image.

Women are naturally competitive. That's what drives women to form cliques at early age.

All the people like us are we, and everyone else is They.

I think who you are in school really sticks with you. I don't ever feel like the cool kid at the party, ever. It's like, 'Smile and be nice to everybody, because you were not invited to be here.'

I've never been much given to little social cliques.

Social media, despite its reputation as the ultimate agent of self-promotion, actually feeds on self-loathing.

Most of us don't want to be outsiders.

I've always been acutely aware of differences and the way you are supposed to act if you want to be popular.

We live in a world of communication - everyone gets information about everyone else. There is universal comparison and you don't just compare yourself with the people next door, you compare yourself to people all over the world and with what is being presented as the decent, proper and dignified life. It's the crime of humiliation.

In a world of oversharing, we don't want to be unknown or unseen. We don't want to be left out.

I joined MySpace in September 2003. At that time no one was on there at all. I felt like a loser while all the cool kids were at some other school. So I mass e-mailed between 30,000 and 50,000 people and told them to come over. Everybody joined overnight.

We have to support each other's tired nerves, I know that sounds so Pollyanna, but really... Mommy groups can be amazing, but haven't you ever gone to one and felt like you are back in high school, totally on the outside of the 'cool kids' club? I totally have!

I couldn't fit in the Irish community in New York. I was never one of the boys because they would talk about baseball or basketball, and I knew nothing about it.

It's always hard not to be a member of the team. There's lots of pressure to do that.

I think we all want to fit in at a young age.

Everyone can relate to being bullied. Everyone can relate to wanting to fit in and being part of a clique.

We all struggle to find our place, and schools can be cruel to kids who aren't part of a pack.

No one should ever feel obliged to speak or to put themselves out publicly online, but I do think it's a good thing to do. The more of us who are women, making our work and just going 'Here I am, here's my work,' the easier it gets for everybody. It's a good thing to do.

When we go out with friends for a dinner or something and we have friends that aren't there, for no reason other than they weren't invited because we only had room for a certain amount of people, we just don't post a picture because we don't want anyone to feel left out. What's the point?