Diane Ackerman Quotes

Marriage is those two thousand indistinguishable conversations, chatted over two thousand indistuinguishable breakfasts, where intimacy turns like a slow wheel. How do you measure the worth of becoming that familiar to somebody—so utterly well known and so thoroughly ever-present that you become an almost invisible necessity, like air?

Love, experienced thus, is a constant challenge; it is not a resting place, but a moving, growing, working together; even whether there is harmony or conflict; joy or sadness, is secondary to the fundamental fact that two people experience themselves from the essence of their existence, that they are only one with each other by being one with themselves, rather than by fleeing from themselves.

The more I live, the more I think, two people together is a miracle.

Any good marriage involves a certain amount of play-acting.

I don't know if you're married, but sometimes there are times where one is really together with their partner. And then there are times when you're both just in your own thing, but you're there together.

Love is being stupid together.

What does the world get from two people/who exist in a world of their own?

Friendship is all about trust and sharing. Passionate and romantic love is all about sex and emotions. You have to try to combine those, I think. The great marriages, the great couples I know, have both.

It's two people that are in love with one another. What's the issue?

There is a stage with people we love when we are no longer separate from them, but so close in sympathy that we live through them as directly as through ourselves. ... we push back our hair because theirs is in their eyes.

Couples are jigsaw puzzles that hang together by touching in just enough points.

Lovers embrace that which is between them rather than each other.

Couples who rarely or never have sex can know lifelong love.

Love means sharing the world with someone else.

If I were proud of anything in my life, it would be of our love. I feel we have to tell to each other as many things as we can, so we are not only lovers, but the closest of friends at the same time.

Marriage is a strange combination of dream and reality, and we spend our lives as couples trying to negotiate that divide.

You know, we've been married for 22 years ... and I have learned a long time ago that the only people who count in any marriage are the two that are in it.

Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another.

There is not enough celebration of companionship. Relationships aren't just about eroticism and sexuality.

In a relationship when things are really great you don't need to say anything and just enjoy the other person. Sometimes with a couple, it gets dark and you don't know what to say and that silence can last all day. Other times you don't want to stop talking because you don't want to lose one another.

The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.

When you're just shagging girls, you can talk about it, but once it gets real, then you don't.

Love is what you've been through with somebody.

If you age with somebody, you go through so many roles - you're lovers, friends, enemies, colleagues, strangers; you're brother and sister. That's what intimacy is, if you're with your soulmate.

Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition.