Daphne Gottlieb Quotes

Relationships can be very traumatic. But being in a healthy relationship can be very empowering.

I think I've learned through not speaking up for myself and thinking that I needed to let men trample all over me, and that didn't work out and I did lose my voice and I knew I wasn't going to let that happen in my experience when I was trying to find someone to spend forever with.

Too often in my life, love has been defined as "humiliation with occasional roses".

Love's an excuse to get hurt and to hurt. Do you like to hurt? I do, I do then hurt me.

With someone who is genuinely abusive or a bad person, you should just get out of town. But if they're being the best person they know how to be, then you have to decide if there isn't much there you can love and not become consumed with what they're not able to give you.

There's the idea that love is supposed to hurt, but it really shouldn't hurt.

When a person only knows abuse, they shift their whole emotional and spiritual life into the context of that abuse. If all you've ever known is to be hurt by the one that pretends to love you, then many times you go to the one who hurts you for love.

Don't rationalize or internalize abusive behavior, because love doesn't hurt.

Love inevitably forces one to look at their own life, and that's either a good thing or a bad thing depending on what the person has going on or what they've experienced. The search for love and heartbreak is a fairly university condition and everybody will take away from it something different.

It would have hurt no matter who took you the first time.

I had older brothers who would pick on me, and injustice always boiled my blood.

There is one thing you know for sure, one fact that never fails to comfort you: the worst day of your life wasn't in there, in that mess. And it will do you good to remember the best day of your life wasn't in there, either. But another person brought you closer to those borders than you had been, and maybe that's not such a bad thing.

A good test of a relationship is how a person responds to the word 'no.' Love respects 'no,' control does not.

A profound love between two people involves, after all, the power and chance of doing profound hurt.

I'm able to laugh now, because I've gone through a lot of mental and physical therapy to heal over the years, my music's been wonderful for me. But I was a shell of my former self at one point. I was not myself. To be fair, I was about 19, so ... I went to Catholic school and all this crazy stuff happened, and I was going, 'Oh, is this just the way adults are?' I was very naive.

People who haven't experienced major setbacks sometimes feel that their hurts are somehow less legitimate or real.

I didn't know that being in a relationship meant you had to be nice. I thought it meant you had to hack away at the other person until they were beaten down and then were too afraid to leave.

Most men judge your importance in their lives by how much you can hurt them.

Going through my divorce has changed who I am in my understanding of what's good and bad in relationships.

A sensitive person receives fifty impressions where somebody else may only get seven. Sensitive people are so vulnerable; they're so easily brutalized and hurt just because they are sensitive. The more sensitive you are, the more certain you are to be brutalized, develop scabs.Analysis helps. It helped me. But still, the last eight, nine years I've been pretty messed up, a mess pretty much.

You can't build your life around hurts from the past" -Tyler Perry The Family That Preys

You took a pretty picture and you smashed it into bits, sank me into blackness and you sealed it with a kiss.

The definition of S & M is letting someone hurt you that you know would never hurt you.

I wasn’t ready to think about the other yet: that it wasn’t that I wasn’t right for Macon, but that maybe he wasn’t right for me. There was a difference. Even for someone who things didn’t come easy for, someone like me.

The best day of my life happened when I was five and almost died at Disney World. I'm sixteen now, so you can imagine that's left me with quite a few days of major suckage.