Albert Ellis Quotes

I can definitely be tough when pushed. In relationships, you have to take a stand for who you are and how you're willing to be treated.

I've learned that I am allowed to say what I like and what I don't like. And I've learned that I have to be professional and not be everyone's best friend.

I feel like you have to tell people who you are, but you don't have to be disrespectful about it. But you also don't have to be a shrinking violet.

I don't like saying 'no' to people, and I'm going to have to learn how to say 'no' more.

Sometimes, it's hard for me to communicate my discomfort because I want to be respectful. At the same time, I've learned that you have to ask people on your team to help you out.

I've learnt that over the years, sometimes I was caring so much about how other people felt, I wasn't standing up for myself and I wasn't caring about how I felt even when people were straight up bullying me online.

I'm not the greatest communicator. I kind of internalize a lot. See, I just said I need to be quiet, but that's not the kind of communication I mean. I mean expressing myself or even standing up for myself. I can sometimes be very passive.

You best teach others about healthy boundaries by enforcing yours.

Your yes means nothing if you can't say no.

But I think that sensitivity is also a good counsellor when it comes to enforcing one's interests.

Maxim for life: You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.

I like tough relationships. I think relationships with conflict are good for you - you learn. But you can't listen too much. I have a strong point of view, and it's important that I fight for my ideas.

In elementary school, we should teach nonviolent conflict resolution and healthy communication skills, which will help children cope with issues like rejection and sexuality later in life.

I have had to learn about saying no.

Don't beg, don't threaten and don't assume you're always right.

I think if someone was really rude to me in an audition, even someone quite important, I think I'd be, 'What are you doing? Don't talk to me like that!'

I was afraid when I came to the Royal Ballet that it would be easy to have everyone walking all over me if I didn't stick up for myself.

You don't just call a person out to a fight if you don't know their background, what they've been through, and how to test them.

I think I've learned through not speaking up for myself and thinking that I needed to let men trample all over me, and that didn't work out and I did lose my voice and I knew I wasn't going to let that happen in my experience when I was trying to find someone to spend forever with.

If there are people who treat me wrong, I either talk to them about it, or I don't talk to them anymore. It's been the most thoughtful and considerate thing I could do for myself and other people. I am going to try to do that forever.

I will never let another man disrespect me. I don't care if we sparring or fighting.

My managers understood that when I sulk, they talk to me. It's a way for me to be heard.

Over the years, I've had to learn how to deal with people who refuse to take me seriously. That's where I learnt the blunt side of my character.

I think it's really important for young audiences to see that you don't have to apologize for being angry when you're angry, and you don't have to apologize for standing up for yourself when people are pushing you around.

Living with integrity means...not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships; asking for what you want and need from others; speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension; behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values; making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.