Sarah Rees Brennan Quotes

Children who have learned to be comfortably dependent can become not only comfortably independent but also comfortable with having people depend on them. They can lean, stand, and be leaned upon, because they know what a good feeling it can be to feel needed.

I am a very independent person, and I, you know, I maintain that independence, but, you know, certain things - I mean, it takes, you know, it's just much easier for other people if other people can help you every now and again.

The best relationship is one that does not foster too much independence nor too much dependence, but exists in the healthy interdependence zone.

The consuming desire of most human beings is deliberately to plant their whole life in the hands of some other person. I would describe this method of searching for happiness as immature. Development of character consists solely in moving toward self-sufficiency.

You cannot rely on other people's support.

I think if we want to find happiness by finding a life partner, then it's a little selfish. You should be complete within yourself, so that when you're in a relationship, you can give out happiness rather than expect it.

The person who needs the other person the least in a relationship is the stronger member.

I think being independent gives you a different confidence about yourself. It gives you more power, especially in certain relationships.

When I was younger, the idea of the bad boy was appealing, but then I grew up and realized that stable people are more fulfilling. Bad boys need more time to themselves. I want to be in a relationship with someone who knows how to take care of himself and is therefore able to take care of me. That way, we can put each other first.

I don't ever want to have to need someone again - where you feel like, without them, you can't be yourself.

Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.

So when you try hard to make your own way, you will help others...before you make your own way you cannot help anyone, and no one can help you.

Oh, yes. I mean to marry him. But not because I want him to give me a life. I want to marry him to share the life I already have. The difference, I think you will find, is a significant one.

Extreme independence is as destructive to a relationship as total dependence.

Living in a society, instead of on a desert island, does not relieve a man of the responsibility of supporting his own life.

Alone I'm nothing.

Through a huge duration of my life, someone has always picked up after me. And when you're on your own and you're trying to be independent, it's definitely different.

I'm not looking for guidance.

I don't think you can really, truly be the partner you want to be until you know on an absolute level that you are a complete person on your own.

I'm a big fan of community, and I think independence is over-rated.

I don't need to control anything. Even with romantic partnerships, I don't need to control anyone.

I don't think it's necessarily healthy to go into relationships as a needy person. Better to go in with a full deck.

Is it important to have a crew behind me? No, it's important to have me behind them. That's how I look at it. You can't just roll with a situation like you're depending on somebody to help you. You're supposed to help the situation, whatever the situation is that you're in.

I honestly think being single's great. Being in a relationship's great. It's all about the timing.

If I find the person that I love, it is because I love them, not because I will be dependent on them.