Tommy Dorfman Quotes

When I first started going out to lesbian clubs, I felt a very binary recreation of hetero culture. There are butches and femmes, and I felt like I was neither of those things. I'm in a turtleneck and jeans and just learning to be comfortable in that space. I realized I don't have to be a certain way.

Be kind to yourself so you can be happy enough to be kind to the world.

I very much related to the idea of sexual identity and how it doesn't have to be black and white. When I first came out, there would be butch people in baseball caps, and that wasn't me, and then there were girls in heels and dresses, and that didn't feel like that was me either. But after a while I learned there's a lot of ground in between.

Only if you're kind to yourself, can you be kind to others.

I'm not a lesbian. I just think that all humans are born with the ability to be attracted to both sexes.

I was conveniently bisexual for a long time, and then I went, 'Come on, who am I kidding?' And I have to say, it was the single biggest step I took toward emotional well-being, to stop feeling like I had to hide who I am.

I would say I'm pretty well at ease with my sexuality, but I'm an individual before I am a female.

I'd hopefully work through all my issues with men first so then I'd be okay being with a woman.

Realizing I was gay was a long sort of waking up.

Whether straight, gay, bi, trans... body image and identity can be a struggle for us all.

I'm proud of my sexuality.

I thought I would try to be gay for a while, but I'm just more sexually attracted to women. But I'm really glad that I found a few gay friends, because it totally saved me from becoming a monk or something.

For a long time after childhood ended and before I expressed my femininity through androgyny, I really didn't like looking in the mirror much because I just felt like I wasn't attractive.

Sometimes I've seen comments about my knees or about my jawline, or people write things like, 'She still has signs of being a boy,' and then I realized that these are beautiful features. I've grown to love them.

Someone said to me a long time ago, 'You're a drag queen,' and at the time I was a little like... hello? But then I realized over the years that I actually am.

My number one thing is be kind to yourself. We can't control what other people do, we can only control what we do.

I think a lot of people are very interested in why other people are trans or why people are gay.

Being transgender is more than just medical books and everything, procedures. It's something spiritual in which you're finding yourself and really discovering who you are and learning to love yourself.

I do want to inspire people - young girls who may like to wear boys' clothes and who romanticize women and feel nothing wrong with it.

I hoped that being attracted to men might go away, but what I never ever hoped would go away were the feelings of femininity, and of softness and fragility, that could live inside of a boy. They were private, but they were mine.

I came out when I was 13 and started to become more open about liking boys, and I still ended up dating girls and boys. It seems to be the natural progression from where I was, but it wasn't a shock to anyone that I was close with.

Being transgender isn't a medical transition. It's a process of learning to love yourself for who you are.

I used to think I was a gay man with this idea of a muse in my head, like a woman that I thought was inspirational or aspirational. But the woman was actually me.

I came to realize, along with being attracted to girls, I had similar feelings for boys.

When I was young there were lesbians who said "Oh, I will free myself of all norms of masculinity, all norms of heterosexuality ". And then, they ended up in very complex relationships that were maybe full of heterosexual power dynamics or full of lesbian forms of masculinity and they became very confused.