Emily Post Quotes

When gentle persuasion [of children] falls on deaf ears, we resort to ridicule and rebuke. Then we return to threats and punishment. This is the modus operandi of a mutual frustration society.

Beating is the worst, and therefore the last means to be us'd in the correction of children, and that only in the cases of extremity, after all gently ways have been try'd, and proved unsuccessful; which, if well observ'd, there will very seldom be any need of blows.

Obviously, discipline is necessary for children. Training is necessary for children. Just like if you want to train a vine, you have to apply physical manipulation to get it to go where you want it to go, but as it learns, then you don't have to do that.

Spare the rod and spoil the child - that is true. But, beside the rod, keep an apple to give him when he has done well.

Anyone who has brought up children knows that consistency has absolutely nothing to do with discipline.

Call them rules or call them limits, good ones, I believe, have this in common: they serve reasonable purposes; they are practical and within a child's capability; they are consistent; and they are an expression of loving concern.

Weaken a bad habit by avoiding everything that occasioned it or stimulated it, without concentrating upon it in your zeal to avoid it. Then divert your mind to some good habit and steadily cultivate it until it becomes a dependable part of you.

It was from them that I learned that hard work in stable surroundings could yield rewards, even if only in infinitesimally small increments.

Correcting bad habits cannot be done by forbidding or punishment.

Instead of yelling and spanking, which don't work anyway, I believe in finding creative ways to keep their attention - turning things into a game, for instance. And, when they do something good, positive reinforcement and praise.

One of the most difficult parental challenges is to appropriately discipline children. Child rearing is so individualistic. Every child is different and unique. What works with one may not work with another.

The only proper way to eliminate bad habits is to replace them with good ones.

I've never been a believer in the physical punishment of children. I don't think it is necessary.

Before you beat a child, be sure yourself are not the cause of the offense.

Children are natural mimics who act like their parents despite every effort to teach them good manners.

Those children who have been most chastised seldom make the best men.

It's tough to work with kids. Kids are animals!

I found this deer toy that poops out candy. And so if I say, 'Cree, you have to go to bed right now. You will get a candy.' We've named the pooping deer 'Gus.'... He gets a jelly bean. And it works. Positive reinforcement is the way to go. I'm learning things like that which help me be a better parent.

Twenty-eight days is what is takes to break a habit and to implement a new set of habits.

All children will do things that you may not want them to. That's part of parenting.

. . . Wait, my child, wait and work on. Patience, patience. . . . .

I know that many people disagree with the way I disciplined my child. I also understand after meeting with a psychologist that there are other alternative ways of disciplining a child that may be more appropriate.

Repeated actions are stored as habits. If the repeated actions aren't fundamentally sound, then what comes out in a game can't be sound. What comes out will be bad habits.

But at three, four, five, and even six years the childish nature will require sports; now is the time to get rid of self-will in him, punishing him, but not so as to disgrace him.

Fussing over children who cry only encourages them. That's positive reinforcement for negative behavior.