Benjamin Spock

(Benjamin McLane Spock)

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Attitudes about the rearing and education of children vary between two extremes. One, which might be labeled “authoritarian” or “coercive,” rests on an assumption that children are by nature irresponsible and lazy, and will do their schoolwork only if they are penalized for a poor performance. The opposite view might be labeled “progressive” or “democratic.” It rests on the assumption that children who are brought up with love, trust, and clear but kind leadership are eager to grow up and be like their parents, eager to explore, learn, master skills, and take on responsibility; they need guidance but not sternness or punishment. Families, Children & Parenting
People have said, You've turned your back on pediatrics. I said, No. It took me until I was in my 60s to realize that politics was a part of pediatrics. Health, Healthcare & Medicine
Teachers and parents who incline toward the authoritarian attitude are scornful of “frills.” They consider lecturing, memorization, recitation, and grading to be the basics, as they remember them from their own school days. They believe in withholding promotion form children who have not satisfactorily completed the year’s work in all subjects, despite the evidence that when children are made to repeat a grade, they do not do as well in the following years as similar children who were promoted. To authoritarians, education is not a means to help each child to mature but a series of hurdles over which everyone, of no matter what capability, must jump. A policy of withholding promotion means ignoring the fundamental and complex question of why the children failed and what needs to be done to correct that problem. Education, Learning, Knowledge & Training
All the time a person is a child he is both a child and learning to be a parent. After he becomes a parent he becomes predominantly a parent reliving childhood. Education, Learning, Knowledge & Training ;Time
Every child senses, with all the horse sense that's in him, that any parent is angry inside when children misbehave and they dread more the anger that is rarely or never expressed openly, wondering how awful it might be.
Happiness is mostly a by-product of doing what makes us feel fulfilled. Happiness & Unhappiness
I was proud of the youths who opposed the war in Vietnam because they were my babies. War & Peace
I would say that the surest measure of a man's or a woman's maturity is the harmony, style, joy, and dignity he creates in his marriage, and the pleasure and inspiration he provides for his spouse. Families, Children & Parenting
I'm not a pacifist. I was very much for the war against Hitler and I also supported the intervention in Korea, but in this war we went in there to steal Vietnam. War & Peace
In our country today, very few children are raised to believe that their principal destiny is to serve their family, their country, or God. Religion & God ;Families, Children & Parenting
Most middle-class whites have no idea what it feels like to be subjected to police who are routinely suspicious, rude, belligerent, and brutal.
Perhaps a child who is fussed over gets a feeling of destiny; he thinks he is in the world for something important, and it gives him drive and confidence.
The child supplies the power but the parents have to do the steering. Power ;Families, Children & Parenting
The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all. Families, Children & Parenting
There are only two things a child will share willingly; communicable diseases and its mother's age.
To win in Vietnam, we will have to exterminate a nation.
Trust yourself, you know more than you think you do. Trust
What good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is usually best after all. Families, Children & Parenting
What is the use of physicians like myself trying to help parents to bring up children healthy and happy, to have them killed in such numbers for a cause that is ignoble? War & Peace
When women are encouraged to be competitive, too many of them become disagreeable. Women
You know more than you think you do.